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Sunday, February 12, 2012

Cabining

Fall Creek...

The ripples from the creek and shelter from the redwoods drown away the sounds of modern life, until you turn on the cable TV. The solitude of cabin life, melt away the worries of the 21st century, until you realize the cost of maintaining a 70 year old house.

But, in real estate, its the location. And in our case, the proximity to countless hiking trails is a gold mine. At least for now, when the kids are willing to hike with us.

It's been an adventure -- a rental and vacation home -- all wrapped into one.

Monday, September 12, 2011

Summer 2011


The summer is over. Caleb and Philip leave this week for San Diego and Santa Cruz.

It was a good summer. Mt Hermon, Caleb's job, Lake Tahoe, some day trips to the Oakland Zoo, USS Hornet, San Francisco Academy of Science, UCSC orientation.

MaeMae and Elias are enrolled in Chinese school, Philip learned Python.

With Caleb coming home each weekend, it felt like everyone was home. There won't be many more summers like this.

Monday, July 11, 2011

Caleb's Job, Philip's Birthday, and Mt Hermon


If a parent relives his life through the eyes of his children, then it only seems fitting that Caleb's first job would be with the Coast Guard.

Caleb works for the Civil Engineering unit in Oakland. It was a frantic weekend looking at room rentals in the bay area. We finally found one on Alameda.

After Caleb was settled, I bounced back and forth between Mt Hermon, Alameda, and Davis. Mt Hermon was fun with the Lins and Chings. On Tuesday night, I drove home for Philip's birthday and driver's test. Lucnh with Philip and Raider, then that rite of passage. Philip passed.... Then on Wednesday evening, in Alameda, I had dinner and watched a movie with Caleb. Alameda has a large and quaint historical downtown. I enjoyed hearing tales of Caleb's first full-time work experience as an Engineering Tech. Then, back to Mt Hermon with Pearl, MaeMae, and Elias.

At Mt Hermon, I enjoyed the mountain bike ride and hikes. We saw a few homes and are considering a UCSC rental / vacation home.


Friday, June 17, 2011

Graduation

Philip's graduation was a whirlwind weekend. From Da Vinci's ceremony celebrating Raider's accomplishment; to the Wall's house; DHS graduation on the campus; grad night dealing blackjack all night; then renting the MU for unlimited games.... Next fall, Philip will be a banana slug.

Caleb is home and starts an internship next week at Coast Guard Island with their civil engineering unit. We are trying to set up a summer sublet.

Elias and MaeMae start summer break with gymnastic and swim lessons.

It is good to have the whole family home again, albeit for a short time. Yet, with the little ones it seems like parenting never ends.

Saturday, February 26, 2011

A New Era

Philip advanced to the second day at the SJS Masters meet, placing him in the top 12. But his quest for the state tournament ended one match short as he lost his first match on the second day. A win would have likely advanced him to Bakersfield next weekend.

With the moment comes the recollection of numerous gymnastic meets, soccer games, cross country meets, and wrestling tournaments -- which have been a major part of our family weekends.

But all things must come to an end. Soon Philip will be hearing from colleges. A new phase begins.
I wonder if we will follow the same path of athletics with the younger ones?


Sunday, February 6, 2011

A Good Weekend

Sometimes I forget how much I enjoy being with friends and family.

On Friday, we went out with Arlene, Loy, Katie, and my mom to Jade Garden to celebrate Chinese New Year. Then, everyone came over for dessert.

On Saturday, we visited the Sacramento museums for "free museum day". Then, we had dinner with Chris, Christine, & family playing Wii, Just Dance.

On Sunday, after church, we visited Mom and Dad Louie, then watched the Superbowl with David and Jo-Ann & family.

I was also please that Philip, with the exception of the museums, hung out with us too.

Always focused on tasks, I need to make more time for these events. I hope I am smart enough to learn this simple truth.




Saturday, January 22, 2011

Christmas, Just Dance, and Wrestling


We traveled down to San Diego for Thanksgiving and invaded Caleb's apartment for a few days, when his roommates were on leave. From museums to beaches to exploring the campus, it was a restful break, although hard to sleep on Caleb's living room furniture.

Christmas has come and gone like a blur. It was good to have Caleb home, although we didn't do anything special, other than a day at Discovery Kingdom.

Our family fun is playing Just Dance together. Everyone from Elias to my siblings enjoy the game. This is one of my few activities, the only exercise I get now. MaeMae loves the game and can play for hours. Even Pearl jumps in occasionally.

Wrestling season started. Philip is having a good season. He won a championship and places in practically ever tournament. The Enterprise will feature a human interest story on him.

Pearl's work has been busy, as she is back to full time.





Wednesday, October 13, 2010

Fall Directions

I get MaeMae and Elias up and ready for school each day. It is a good routine that I am happy to part of. Then, I drive to work, which has been busy lately. For leisure, I watch TV and a weekly football game.

For a short while, I was reading a book about Christian perspectives of Buddhism and Buddhist perceptions of Christianity, although it seems a bit academic for my taste.

I can almost see the day in which Philip will be off to college. Then, we'll have just Elias and MaeMae home--a second round of parenting. Parenting will define my life.

I have been jogging, now that I can't bike to work anymore. For awhile I was more disciplined, but now I'm only jogging (slowly) twice a week.

For some reason my life seems out of rhythm. I can't really describe it. I seem content to be introspective, lost in the technical details of my work. I wonder if this is who I am and I should accept these tendencies or, if I should force myself more into a people oriented role.

I seem to have lost some of the passion for social justice, which seemed, a few years ago, so important to me. While I still hold these values, I seem less incline to be an "activist".


Sunday, September 19, 2010

Back to School


I sit in Caleb's apartment now, as he starts his second year at UC San Diego. A year ago, he started his college career, excited, not knowing what lay ahead. I, too, as a parent knew nothing of letting go. Today, as he reunited with his friends, it was a sense of the familiar--in a good way. It become apparently clear to me that San Diego (just as much as Davis) is his home and he is happy.

The school year has began and our lives are like a whirlpool. Pearl is working full time with Maelin at her school. Elias has preschool and extended care at Applegate. Philip starts his senior year. I am consumed in my work as our office adopts new OOP practices. While the days fly by, I sometime wonder the meaning of this busyness.

This week we had Philip's back to school night and a picnic at North Davis. Next, I flew with Caleb to San Diego to help him unpack and stock up his kitchen--somewhat feeling out of place among college students.

Fall is here.

Thursday, August 26, 2010

Posts from Yesteryear -- Taiwan (2005)

Feb 19, 05: Our first day in Taiwan and my fears of being lost in a foreign city are subsiding. We landed and managed to take the bus into Taipei, find our hotel, and learn the fundamentals of the subway metro. We saw a temple, a memorial, a night market and more, but what I'll remember most about Taipei is the full senses that it demands. Neon lights, unceasing audible warnings, and strange, but strong odors fill the city. I think of Mu-Shien.... I am exhausted.

Feb 20, 05: It has been days, but finally I slept well and feel refreshed this morning. Taipei is so busy. What started as a quiet Saturday morning at 7:00, we we first arrived grew into a vibrant hustling city by evening -- people everywhere. The night markets were exotic, unlike anything in the west. Filled with food galore prepared in strange ways. The smell that penetrated the air, as if to surround us, was like fish and curry. First it was unique, but over time, became mildly sickening and overwhelming. The temple was beautiful--the music, the candles, the lanterns, the prayers, the people gathering together--there voices (language) I could not understand. It would have been perfect had it not been for the incense, which smoke and smell at times I found overwhelming. The Buddhist temple, nonetheless, was beautiful.

Today it's Sunday -- a quieter day in Taipei. We went to the National Palace Museum and saw numerous scrolls, wood carvings, jade, and sculptures. Next, was shopping -- never ending stores --high rise buildings. Lunch was unique at a teahouse -- waffles and tea. After an afternoon nap we headed to Taipei City Hall to see the hundreds of lanterns in celebration of the Lantern Festival 15 days into the new Lunar year -- the Roster.

Feb 21, 05: The waterfront in Dansui was dissappointing. Rainy and cold -- the port was empty with few attractions. We caught the MRT then found Bus 26 which took us to the desserted waterfront. I was fearful that we wouldn't be able to get back, but luckily the route is frequently travelled. Next, we went to Bentou which was a great experience int he hot springs. Soaking in hot mineral water in the cold rain was fun.

Last night we lost our room at Hotel Royal Inn and moved to the Rosemary Inn - which was run down. It was dated, dirty, and cold. The mattress was like a box spring and hard to sleep on. It reminded me of days sleeping on the floor because it was so hard.

Feb 22, 05: We started a 5 day/4 night tour of the island. Today, most of the day was at Sun Moon Lake and the aboriginal culture. Now we are at Taiching. I am still preoccupied with MuShien. I can't wait to meet her. I am saddened that my father never had a chance to meet her. I also thinkg of him and how hard it must be on my mom to suddenly be without him after so long.

Another interesting fact about Taiwan is the bettlenut or bitternut. Young women often scantly dressed sell these snacks which are extremely bitter but provide a warmth in the body. It is a stimulant that many people use particularly in the rural and central part of Taiwan. The stands are everywhere! The tree looks like a palm tree but much smaller. It is a strange industry.

7-11 shacks for dinner. Again, I fall asleep so fast and anxiously await tomorrow. The weather is warmer and there is less rain. This city is older, but more neon lights surround the streets and create a deco atmosphere.

Feb 23, 05: We saw several sites enroute to Kaoshing, the 2nd largest city in Taiwan. Kaoshing is the main seaport and lacks the infrastructure (MRT) of Taipei--although one is being built now. We saw the peota in Ching Ching lake and the zig zag bridge. Prior to Kaoshing we stopped in Lakung -- a small town to see a duddhist temple with many interesting small markets with exotic foods.

At night, near our hotel we wondered to the lantern festival. There were tens of thousands of people swarming the river bed. Fireworks and shops and crowds were everywhere. The show was lasers, water fountains, and projected colors followed by music and fireworks.

Feb 24, 05: Today we went to Kenting National park. It took about 2 hours to get there. Climbing the huge volcanic rocks, seeing the ocean, and the lush vegetation was fascinating. We saw a water buffalo and a family of monkeys. The lighthouse was also interesting. South, the weather was much warmer and humid. At night we walked about 5 blocks to the open markets. We ate at a hot pot -- simple Japanese style meal. Again, the late night with so many people, and exotic foods, under neon lights -- strange smells.

Feb 28, 05: I couldn't stop thinking about tomorrow. I fell asleep watching movies--my family all of us together. Now, I am awake feeling there is too much to do. Tomorrow, we meet her for the first time.


Saturday, August 21, 2010

Alaskan Cruise


"A liking for the sea and it's lore..."

While its been nearly 20 years since I sailed the seas, the cruise rekindle my affections for the ocean. I appreciated the time being with family. Unplugged from the world, on the ocean, shipboard time operates at its own pace.

The cruise was a celebration of Mom and Dad's 50th Anniversary. It was fun to be with extended family. Fine dining, an evening show, a walk around port, jogging the treadmill, seeing the majestic glaciers--all characterized the cruise, but mostly it was just about being together as a family.

The global economics were also evident. Almost 1900 passengers being served by a crew of 900, mostly from developing nations. Crew members earned as little as $30 per day, while working 12 hour days. My only comfort in experiencing this overt economic disparity firsthand was the fact that most crew members worked on cruise lines for decades indicating that these jobs, although menial from a 1st world perspective, might provided upward mobility in developing nations.

Friday, June 25, 2010

Change of Command

Today, I attended a change of command ceremony in Oakland. It was good to see several classmates again, many of whom I haven't seen in 10 or 20 years. Caleb and Philip came and they had a glimpse of part of my life that they had never seen.

In these reflective moments, one always ponders--what if...what if I stayed in the Coast Guard? Life was not meant to live in the hypothetical.

I had a good time. I'm glad I was able to share this moment with Caleb and Philip.


Tuesday, May 11, 2010

Spring Break

A visit to the snow, a trip to San Diego, spring is here.

We enjoyed a few side trips and one long one to San Diego. Eli and MaeMae enjoyed the beach and Legoland. It was good to see Caleb, and for Philip to spend a day in the dorms.

The battle of the bands at picnic day is becoming one of my favorite traditions. MaeMae loved the music and couldn't stop dancing. Eli couldn't stop laughing at the Stanford band and all their crazy costumes. Music is something special that touches the soul.

I have been watching these you tube videos on Stephen Hawking's lectures on the origins of the universe--thoughtful and provocative. There is so much available on the internet these days.


Saturday, January 2, 2010

Christmas 2009


It was good to have Caleb hope for an extended period. The 2009 Christmas season could best be described as visiting family and watching movies. Nothing exciting, but nonetheless time together. Soon, Philip will be in college and our household will change even more. The holidays become a blur: watching Avatar; Philip's wrestling meet; a family Christmas eve; Christmas morning with Pearl's family; visiting my extended family in Lodi on Christmas night; my extended family celebration at our house; yard work at my mom's house; a family trip to Lawrence Hall of Science at UC Berkeley; New Years Eve with JoAnn's Family.

Sunday, December 27, 2009

Wrestling Season


Wrestling season started. I must admit watching Philip's wrestling match is intense for me, far more than watching him play soccer or run cross-country. There is something primal about wrestling, two people on the mat, giving it everything they have. I am caught up, consumed in the moment, even overwhelmed with intense emotion. My reaction seems contrary to the Buddhism tenets I seek in pursuing the middle way.

Philip continues to get better each season. The workouts, technique, and weight management builds discipline like no other sport. While Philip's success in sports builds his confidence, these fleeting accomplishments should not be the sole basis for his identity. The middle way is balance.

Sunday, December 6, 2009

The Simple Path

I have been reading the Dalia Lama's, the Simple Path. I've come to understand that to practice Buddhism is not to surrender my Christianity. On the contrary, Buddhism finds no need to increase its numbers or expand its influence, but rather suggests that we focus on the strengths of our own faith tradition, rather than its flaws. For Buddhism acknowledges that these other faiths have provided hope and given meaning to millions of people and therefore is a positive force in the world, despite what we (who seek faiths outside of their upbringing) may see as its shortcomings. So, Buddhism's first goal is to make me a better Christian.

It is this openness, denial of the ego-soul, and pacifist roots that perhaps provide a deeper understanding of the teachings of Jesus Christ. To deny oneself, blessed are the poor, to set the captives free, we are made perfect in our weakness -- is this not the kingdom? Can this kingdom be understood from a western context immersed in geopolitical power?

My recent study of faith has taught me how our identity is shaped by our race, gender, nationalism, culture, and social economic status. These factors have a significant impact on how we think and view our world. By denying our own ego soul, Buddhism seeks to rise above these cultural influences. Is this not the path of Jesus Christ and his calling to us. Could it be that the creator and creation are meant to be as one--in intimate connection, inseparable, and indistinguishable from one another. Could it be that our implicit trust and belief in the existence of our own ego-soul is sin's power over us.

Buddhism starts from the pretext of denying the most important aspect of our identity--our own ego soul, and in doing so, may open a genuine understanding of the kingdom that Jesus proclaimed.

Am I a cup already full?


Saturday, November 28, 2009

Thanksgiving -- the familar

Thanksgiving is the familiar--the smell of turkey in the oven and the sounds of ma-jong blocks colliding amongst friendly conversation. I see my past in the little ones, my present in my own life, and my future in my parents' generation...

It was a mix of activities: Caleb's first visit home from college, working on the duplex, Philip's lock-down at DCCC, family baptismal services, and the traditional turkey dinner.

Monday, November 9, 2009

Halloween and Half Marathons


Fall is here. The days are short. MaeMae and Elias celebrated Halloween as Superman and Jessica (from Toy Story). Both are doing well.

Philip finished his final X-country race for the year. He also ran the Clarksburg half marathon to support Jo-Ann. I tried to run a couple of times and realized that there is no way I could do it. I asked him if he would miss X-Country and he definitely will. It has been a fun season for him. While he may not be the fastest runner, he has made great strides. That is the lesson of athletics. Wrestling season starts. Philip is the team captain.

Sunday, October 11, 2009

20 Year Reunion


This weekend is the 20th year reunion for my Coast Guard Academy class. Although I wanted to, I did not attend. Family life and kids are just too busy these days. Several of my classmates posted pictures. While it brings back vivid memories, but to be honest, my Coast Guard years are no long a major part of who I am, despite the fact that it consumed my formative years in college and early career. I certainly miss many of the friends I made, but that was a long time ago. Maybe I'll go for my 25th or 30th reunion, when MaeMae and Elias are older. It certainly would be good to see some classmates again.

Sunday, October 4, 2009

Returning to my Roots

We are debating if we should return to the Chinese Church. For the first 18 years of my life, Chinese Grace Bible Church defined me: my ethnicity, my faith, my friends. It was there that I made my longest lasting friendship--the type of people you just hang out with, even my wife.

While I have certainly changed, particularly my theological framework, our ethnicity runs deeper--to the core of our identity.

In his first week, Philip had a different experience at the Chinese church as compared to our previous, mainstream church. His ultimate path I don't know, but being exposed to both, I feel, is good--particularly as a youth.

In some respects, it would be good to be home again. On the other hand, once we change, we can never return to the same home.

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